Apparently as the 'hoe' rule goes, as long as you haven't slept with more than half ur age ur cool...apparently lol
Tuesday, 31 January 2012
Scotty, what amount of boys do you think is appropriate for a girl to have slept with at the age of 18/19 ? You see I lost my virginity at age 16 and have never slept with anyone I haven't been in a relationship with or atleast been 'seeing' for a while.
My best guy friend likes me more than a friend but i like his friend. How do i tell him this and not hurt him?
If he likes you then u tellin him u don't feel the same will hurt him either way. The best u can do is let him down gently.
Monday, 30 January 2012
There's no point in taking it personally coz everyone has their preferences. Live and let live.
Thank you for doing this Formspring. Some people ask you some BS, lol, but for the people who have really needed someone's advice, you are such a blessing.
:) aww thanks
Hey Scotty, recently I feel like all of my friends are failing me. I'm at a place where I really want to be positive and not be around fake, negative people but is making REAL new friends in ur 20's a myth? Every1s friendships seem so established.
No it's not a myth. I speak from experience :)
problem with him! he doesnt like to open up and hes being soo long about the situation its like he jus gasses me up! what should i do about it?
*shrug* Some ppl take a long time to open up. If it annoys you that much then why bother? Only stick around if you really think it's worth it.
theres this guy that i like! and i know that he likes me and ive banged on his toes that i have some sort of feelings for him! so i said why did u diss miss it if u new i liked u! n he sed he didnt dismiss it he jus dont like to be open! i have this...
how do you get over someone whos turned you down. this could lead to insecureness. is there anything you can really do to get passed it?
Shit happens. You've just gotta take it on the chin and keep it movin.
Saturday, 28 January 2012
Hey Scotty - what happened to the ustream idea, I try to tune in but it always keeps cutting off even though my player is updated - will you be ustreaming the radio show anytime soon ?
We occasinally ustream @SwearDownRadio depending on the guest that we have. If you lot would prefer us to do it on more of a regular basis then let me know.
How long have you been single for and what kind of relationship are you looking for now? (serious leading to marriage, dating for experience or just fun)
I'm dating someone at the moment.
Yes, which is y I don't understand why ppl ask me 4 relationship advice lol
I've had it for a while coz of SDTV and in the beginning they did normal things like ask me questions about myself, but now for some reason they think I'm an agony aunt lol
im in my first year of alevels, not enjoying them, and have no idea what i to be when im older! and finding it hard to get a job :(
there's a guy i see around school a lot and i think he's really fit. how do i go about approaching him without seeming like a beg? (we have no mutual friends)
I can't choose between the nice, reliable guy or the fun, slightly kind of rude boy. I like the second guy better but I'm not really sure of his intentions. Any advice?
Find out what their intentions are then make your decision.
Wednesday, 25 January 2012
What do you feel about being "bait" in uni? Guys always compliment me on not being a bait girl yet these are the girls they always go for :/
Like everything, being bait in uni comes with its positives and negatives. Positive: higher social status. Negatives: Makes you an easier target for juvenile attacks because ppl know who you are.
In a boys eyes, a girl not being bait is actually a good thing because if they were to wife her it's less likely that people will pay attention to what she does, which in turn minimises the need for unwanted gossip.
Some guys will go after girls who are bait because like some females do with guys, being with someone in a position of power (in this case social status) gives you more power by association.
Why do guys try to flirt with a girl one minute and the next they are calling them 'bitches'? Why so extreme?
*shrug* Some ppl are just fickle
Monday, 23 January 2012
Critical Thinking, Media Studies, Sociology and English Literature.
Saturday, 21 January 2012
I'm starting to think I'll be alone forever, I come off cold and unemotional or just angry (which I don't realise), my friends thinks it puts off people but Idk what I'm doing wrong, I'm starting to think its the way I look or idk, what do I do?
There's nothing for you to do. If that's the way you are then that's the way you are. Someone out there will like you just the way you are. Don't worry about conforming to what you think society finds more appealing/personable. Everyone is different for a reason. Ur perfect match is out there somewhere ;)
I think you need to stop worrying about what u think could happen between them and keep your focus on your relationship. If he wanted her so bad he would have left you and gone back to her, but he hasn't so obviously you still have top spot. Don't stress.
I can't control it, do you think I'm overreacting? What would you do in this situation if you were me? I feel like I'm losing him (p.s his ex has moved to around out area, she's 20 so I guess she's more experienced,she knows him so well and is so
(cont) really loved her whatever, they were together for nearly two years. Anyway, like I said before their becoming really close, calling even seeing each other and spending time together, I hate to be the jealous type but this time
(cont) each other for 2 years back but met coincidentally, they lost touch but have started becoming proper friends again, also they only broke up because they both went uni and the long-distance thing was too much. His friend jokingly told me he (cont)
Scotty, I'm 19 and my boyfriends 21, we've been together for 5 months now and it's been great, but recently his ex and him started talking again, closely. I know it would get any girl feeling slightly weird, but with me it's worse. They haven't seen (cont
Well we'll be doing or regular shows plus a few new sectors: @_AshTaylor's 'All Eyes On You', @JigzSwitchedUp's 'Rap Nation', mine and @RhialityCheck's 'Be-you-tiful', and we'll be doing some skits and other stuff ;) All of this starts in Feb so make sure you guys have subscribed youtube.com/sweardowntv
I try to listen to tha live shows, but every five minutes it cuts out, so i jus gave up nd wait for tha podcasts.
U may just need to update your flash player hun
Thursday, 19 January 2012
(cont) so I've told her I going to show the girl the whole bbm chat because I have nothing to hide, she went in fb and hype up the thing then text me saying she deleted me of bbm and now 2 weeks later she wants to add me back - how would u solve this?
Personally, I'd remove her from my life. She seems stupid and immature.
I have this friend who loves to lie realise... Being two face to people and telling me in bbm but she won't get the message that she shouldn't really be moaning to me about it, she should go tAke it up wiv that person! now she talking shit about me (CONT)
Yes we are but the site we use now has a monthly upload limit so we're working on getting them on another site. Tbh, if you lot really wanna listen to the shows it's best to lock in when we're live rather than to sit waiting for weeks for the podcasts. Swear Down Radio is every Wednesday 8pm-10pm.
i tried to do it anonymously from my phone but it said i had to log in ? and he wont see it :) and yeah i know materialistic things aren't important but don't you think it should be a aspect even if its a little one ? or should i remain content ? :)
Hi scotty : ) just wanted to know your thoughts on laith hakeem and marlon palmer.. I just discovered laith and christinas love story (real cute) do you follow them on tumblr and would u ever like to be "tumblr famous"?
I've only heard of Laith and tbh I thought him and Christina's 'love story' being posted on youtube was a bit tacky. I'm not concerned with being tumblr famous, I just go on there to catch joke :)
Hi scotty.. have you ever been to a iluvlive show in london before? I've heard about it before and wanted to know if it is worth going to?
No I've never been, but I heard it's quite good so you should check it out :)
Monday, 16 January 2012
I've been seeing a guy for a few months. I've noticed he tells white lies here and there by catching him out when he tells different stories. The lies he tells aren't major but won't it mean that he could be lying about his faitfulness?
The only thing I can tell you is to be careful. People that lie just for the sake of it can't always be trusted.
No. I feel that if you cheat on someone then you're an asshole and you don't deserve to be with them because if they mattered to you that much you wouldn't have done it.
Saturday, 14 January 2012
I know it sounds cliché, but you just KNOW lol. For me, one day I just looked at my partner at the time and he wasn't doing anything particularly amazing but I just started staring and smiling like a retard; and then...I dunno, it's like I was overwhelmed with how happy he made me without doing anything at all and it kinda hit me. I loved him. This is gonna sound sooo corny lol, but it's like I could feel my heart swell *hides face* lol. There's more to it, but that was the initial feeling.
hey scotty when i was a lot younger i wanted to be a vampire slayer and buffy was my idol but now ive switched sides lol... where you always a vampire lover? its not really a deep question im just curious :P
Yeah, I've always liked them. I'm into dark fantasy in general but vamps are my fave. I think that the vampire boom that came with Twilight made it worse though because now vampires are everywhere so sometimes I can seem borderline obsessed lol.
whore-ish, what do I do. I REALLY like his friend. (Oh plus we kinda knew each other before I met my current boyfriend, we just weren't as close). Sorry for the essay! Thanks Scotty, keep doing what your doing.
I think that although you may be crushing in his friend you need to remember that you chose to commit to someone so you should honour that commitment.
Me and my boyfriend's relationship is OK, but just OK, I feel like there's nothing, and these days we find it hard to talk about things. The other day with his friend we pretty much had a moment and I know I'm not imagining things, Do you think i'm whore-
And I feel like a slut. I couldn't really stop it, it just happened, we have so much of the same interests, same different taste in music, loads of things. We've never really been alone properly yet, but I see him a lot because my boyfriend sees him daily
Scotty, OK I have this huge problem, I'm 17, I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months now, I do really like him butlately my and one of his boys have been growing kinda really close. I think, no, I know I like him.. a lot, more than my boyfriend probably,
scotty, how important do you think the 'i love you' stage in a relatinship? like in your past ones how important was it, was it a big deal? is love overrated?
Yeah I think it's a big deal. To love someone and to be loved back is a beautiful thing. I don't think love is overrated at all. Being in love is one of the best feelings in the world.
No of course not :). I don't measure my success by what other people are doing. As long as I know that I'm progressing I'm happy.
Friday, 13 January 2012
Thts true but it also comes on to me when they direct their bullshits to me of gassin n stunting wiv me or chatting shit bwt me to make me look dumb then wha? Is there any reason for me to even c dem as friends?
Not at all. Don't f*ck with ppl that move shady. Life's to short for unnecessary bullshit.
im 17 next month, and im soooooooo shy around boys to the point i get so uncomfortable being around my friends boy mates, and its not even the fact that i fancy them, becus i dont. i dont know whats wrong with me or how to speak to them?:/
You're probably over-thinking it. There's no need to be shy; boys are just girls with penises lol. Talk to them the way you would anyone else. People are people :)
1st thanks 4 that potential hit in a vid, but based on my previous question,i got a prob,theres these 2 girls at work ones 20 ones 22 n they claim dere bedrins but one stunts the ova will chat some any shit even after all i backed her for wtf should i do?
Nothin. Their friendship isn't your problem.
btwwww to the broke boyfriend tweet. im 15 so i can't get a job atm. and i dont mind paying half , but he can't even afford that unless its orange wednesdays -____-
U seem a bit materialistic. This guy cares about you enough to be with you and you're here callin him out on my formspring about something like this and u didn't even ask anonymously. Did you ever think how he would feel if he saw this?
me&my boyfriend are happy together, there's just one thing, HE'S BROKE, we havent gone out together after 6 weeks, its like we're links but everything else is how a relationship should be.he's 17 so i suggested a job, he said he's trying what can i do ?
If he can't provide it then you have to deal with it. Material things aren't important. Your role as his girl is to hold him down and help him grow. If u want him to get a job so bad, help him look for one.
Sunday, 8 January 2012
is it me or do some guys like to put the blame on you.on second their saying their pouring their heart out to you saying they 'love' you and then they say 'oh nah there different stages of love it was just you feeling the emotions' DICKHEAD excuse that x)
...this question is very specific. It sounds like the guy you are referring to is a bit of a twat coz that isn't even good bullshit that he told you, it's pure gas lol
Looool ok. I don't really have any tbh. All the mistakes I've made have brought me to where I am now and life's kinda good, so yeah...I regret nothing.
Naa it aint evident to me, thats why im asking u. I just clocked she dont do tttv anymore and shes on swear down. Just wondered how come she moved and how come @pissinyourmouth aint on swear down tv?
TTTV was over so I took her.
Love & Basketball, Love Jones, The Best Man, The Brothers, Just Wright, Brown Sugar, Soul Food...to name a few.
hey scotty, heres my problem i'm 16 and currently in a 11 month relationship, i do wanna take it to the next level, but im insecure about my insecure about my body, like stretch marks, ive tried cocoa butter etc, but it doesnt help :( any suggestions... ?
There's no need to be insecure about your body. If your man had a problem with it he wouldn't be with you. As for the stretch marks, pretty much everyone has them so don't stress. I recommend Bio Oil to make them fade.
I think they just wanted someone to blame tbh.
Saturday, 7 January 2012
just gotta say i love your work in EVERYTHING YOU have DONE! << i know i aint asked anything..... wait... *thinks* ermmm what ya fav colour? :) it might have been asked but shhhhhhh lol ♥
Loooooool thanks hun. It's gold.
lol I dunno, *Shrug* I'm mentally unstable =D
Friday, 6 January 2012
my feelings ain't changed or nothing and i still really really like him but it's just so weird, its like the spark has gone (btw it was the first time we did physical stuff). what do you thinks going on and how do you think i can fix it, i really like him
Maybe you lot moved too fast. My advice would be to talk about it with him and maybe leave the physical stuff alone until you both are completely comfortable.
ok im 16 and my boyfriend of 2 months is 17, the other day, we had proper sexual foreplay (i/we dont wanna go all the way yet), but after us doing that, it's been really awkward, we dont talk as much and it's hard to find conversation. my feelings (cont)
I know what I need in life to get to where I am going. Everyone that meets me keeps thinking that I am anti-social because I don't like speaking unless I have a purpose. What can I say to tell them to make them leave me alone.
You don't like speaking to them unless you have a purpose :/ sounds a bit frosty but ok. Tell them that then. I'm sure after hearing that they will never bother you again.
Monday, 2 January 2012
I never said i'd finish it, I said I'd add a new chapter.
ok so basically i like this boy 'ted' but then hes so/so with me.. theres this other boy 'jon' and he likes me and i think i like him too.. is it possible to like two people at the same time for different reasons?
Ppl's sexuality is 100% their biz but personally I wouldn't be comfortable being with a man that has been with men himself.
Why would u wanna say sum evil shit like that 2 ur fam? What if they all dropped dead 2moro?
I have this friend who is bigger in size than me. Every time we go out, she makes a huge deal because she feels insecure about her weight. She feels when people look at her, that she looks like a 'big girl'. What should I do?
Tell her she's not the only fat girl in the world and that she should suck it up and get over herself. There are more important things to worry about and if her weight bothers her that much then she should make an attempt to lose it or stfu. Make her watch my Fatty Boom Boom 101 vid http://youtu.be/dfcmUSlZ_6o
I like this guy who lives at the end of my road. We always give each other eye contact and that's it. I want to get to know him as a person, what should I do to start this?